tags: #technologicallove/concepts #technologicallove/perspectives related notes: # overview [[Communication]] is a joint act of acting and perceiving, giving and receiving. The one who acts (actor, speaker, giver) chooses their actions in order to facilitate an inference for the one who perceives (perceiver, listener, receiver). The one who receives perceives actions in context and infers the causes of those actions. In a strict domain of communication, we think of these causes as communicative intentions or messages, but they stretch far beyond. One may communicate more than they intend to, and an intention is not required for communication to have occurred. To learn to speak, the speaker must observe and infer how their actions affect the actions of those they are speaking to. To learn to listen, the listener must observe and infer how their responses affect the subsequent actions of those they are listening to. Whatever the intent, communication is a dance of giving and receiving. It is the generalization of learning. It is learning together. *Communication is supported by a channel of mutual understanding.* [link to proof for communication bandwidth is proportional to belief alignment.] Lived understanding is the way of being in love. So we can see that communication is supported by love. # formal definition stay tuned ;) # love and communication Mutual understanding is the foundation of relationship. It allows you to give and receive and care with fluidity and ease. It is a bond of love. When this understanding is flawed, there is a gap between your beliefs about your partner and how they actually are. This causes you to act (or not act) in ways that cause them pain. The solution is to invest in understanding. We build understanding through open communication. Sharing openly without bias. Listening without attachments or prejudice, open to whatever you may learn and to be changed by it if it is worthy. Communication is how we learn about each other and build understanding. Communication is how we build love. And love thrives beyond personal relationships. It lives in all relationships. By listening with [[openness and curiosity]], we can build understanding of any part of the world. This understanding shows us how to care and is the manifestation of love. # evolution and development # results regarding general communication # holistic communication Communication governs relations between parts. Communication mediates the relationship between [[the part and the whole]]. Communication is a way of conceiving of the causal connective tissue that joins the parts of a system.