created: `=dateformat(this.file.ctime, "DDDD, HH:mm")` updated: `=dateformat(this.file.mtime, "DDDD, HH:mm")` tags: #technologicallove/concepts related notes: # essence [[Control]] is the manifestation of an attachment to a particular way you want the [[world]] to be. # expansion Control creates disease, as it makes the world flow in a way that is less easeful, as it is not sensitive to the way the world wants to be. It is not sensitive to the dao. The healthy way. And it is unsustainable because it is unstable and because it kicks off a cycle in the rest of the world by trying to heal you out of it. Because you become the parasite. The climate is already doing this. Will AI do the same? Instead, guidance, care, love is a way of jointly listening and teaching. It is an offering, a gift. It is up to the other to receive. All you can do is offer gifts. You cannot force their receipt. But when gifts are given with understanding of those to whom they are given, then they will be received with joy and they will cause healing. Not just for them, but for you and for the being made of your togetherness. Gifts given with love heal and ease the flow of love Let it flow contagiously until we all dance together and spend our lives discovering new forms of beauty and magic and love What if we stopped trying to control And all we did was offer gifts to each other? To all the others the land, the animals, the people, the plants and we gladly received gifts offered then the things that we create will heal and we will be the healers We can choose our relationship to the other Do we wish to be the parasite? Or do we wish to be the healer? We need to let go of the future and focus on the present. We aim to control the future in order to make it more predictable. More legible. But in the process we introduce (dis)ease. And this disease gives us a predictable but unhealthy world. But when we let go of our attachments and work through gifts and through love, then we end up in a world full of magic and synchronicities, where everything we wish for in our deepest of hearts will happen, but in a form that surprises us and where recognition of the magic that granted us our wishes can only be seen through deep understanding and openness. Beings are free agents. They can and will and should do what they want to. All we can do is offer gifts. It is up to the other to take it.