created: `=dateformat(this.file.ctime, "DDDD, HH:mm")` updated: `=dateformat(this.file.mtime, "DDDD, HH:mm")` tags: #technologicallove/concepts related notes: [[the way of love]], [[give, trust, receive essay]] - [ ] #task Edit the expansion section here... # essence **Give**: offer what you can give freely without expectation based on your best understanding of what would be good for the other. **Trust**: Trust is the opposite of attachment. Let go of expectations around the nature of the response of the recipient and the world. Pay attention and allow the world to respond to your action, knowing that it will do so according to it's nature. Accept whatever happens and know that it is real and true. **Receive**: Welcome however the world responds with gratitude for all of the good and the beauty hidden amongst everything else. Listen and ask why the world acted and responded as it did. Learn from your observations so that your actions may be guided by deeper understanding in the future. Learning the give-trust-receive framework may require building understanding with your partner. Be patient and help them to learn the method and stay open to learning from them. # expansion We must not depend on one another for our integrity. We must stay in our integrity, such that if things were to change, we are free to leave and the other is free to leave. If this is not the case, then there is no freedom and giving and receiving cannot be done freely. This is codependence. Let us allow ourselves to be stronger together. I do not and should not need gifted help, and it is important that I remain independently able to walk this path, but I also will gladly receive all the help that is offered. When I am independently well, I am free and I can act and be in the ways that I deem best for my small self as a part of my larger self. Gifted help is distinct from negotiated collaboration. Gifted help is offered openly amongst mutual understanding of the reality of togetherness. It emerges from love. Negotiated help is offered with specific agreed upon expectations. It is required of beings that are not in love. It is is more fragile and does not generate as much abundance. Both are OK, but the best world, the world in love, operates through giving, trusting, and receiving. When we give, trust, and receive, we operate without attachment or expectation. We operate lightly and with care. This is made possible through the mutual understanding of togetherness that occurs within the bond of love. ## eclipse poem The path of love is risky You have to give and risk not receiving Offer and see what happens And slowly build mutual trust that allow you to offer more and trust more And see that you're still well But really there's no risk just trust That you will get what you need Not necessarily what you want And that it will be even better Just never offer more than you can give freely Which is what you need to be happy and healthy by yourself For if you depend fully on others who might not be there in the future Rather than just enjoy and appreciate and receive from them Then you cannot freely give anymore And it is not giving And it is not open and light Because it is a need And so you cannot combine in love But become codependent And may be forced to make sacrifices you cannot afford Or to hurt the other on order to get what you need Stand strong and tell and full of joy And share your abundance with others May you make friends and partners And grow into a being beyond yourself in love