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tags: #technologicallove/concepts
related notes: [[love]], [[The way of being]], [[ways of being]]
# essence
*the way of love is the journey*
*through following love*
*to becoming love*
The way of [[love]] is the path of growing mutually beneficial mutual support through [[understanding]], [[respect]], and [[care]].
To follow the way of love is simply to act the belief that your impact on the whole of the world is more important than your impact on yourself. It is to sustain and make yourself well only for your ability to give to the wellbeing of the world (not at your expense, but to yourself as well, as you are part of the world and your health also allows you to continue to give). It is to enact the understanding that you are not separate from the world. This is the way of love because it is the way of moving that is most likely to grow love.
*Living well for your small self and the whole is the way to love.*
# expansion
The way of love requires us to be [[attachment|unattached]], free from [[desire]], and fully present.
## the way of love poem
if we wish to build a world in love
we must follow the way of love
making the journey
that rends us to our essence
through following love
to becoming love
it is a dangerous road
along the way we lose everything
yet the only danger is in holding
and all that we risk is what we stand to lose no matter what
our identities, our attachments, our disharmonies
so really there is no risk
if you choose the precarious path
you will need to be lighter
as you will be carrying many things
and if you let them have even a small amount of weight
it will be multiplied and it will drag you down
and if we fall off and away it will hurt
the pain may be great
the fires may burn us
the burns may rend us into unrecognizable shape
as we walk along the path of love
we find ourselves
a little bit closer with god
## how to walk the way of love
If I act in accordance with my understanding and do not expect anyone else to join, people will join of their own will when to join leads towards their [[wellbeing]].
# example
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To follow the way of love, you must ask for what you need and make sure you get what you need. You must also be open to giving without expectation in order to support others because you understand that others are yourself and therefore are motivated to care for others.
You may believe that this is because others will support you (believing in karma), but you will not control how this happens. Instead this will happen through your open giving and trusting and receiving, rather than by forging deals.
When we make binding contracts we are not free
When we mutually support and mutually care because of mutual understanding and respect, then we receive everything we need and are free to do everything in a way that is good.
If I can make it mutually work, supporting a loving family to live a magical life in the riverview house, while they support my investment and take care of the house and preserve my connection to the redwoods is the way of love.
Caring for an old house and bringing it back to life while it cares for me and supports my life is the way of love.
Fixing an old van and keeping it running, while it takes me on adventures around the country is the way of love.
Supporting a friend in their business while they help you with yours and you learn from each others' strengths is the way of love.
Living your lives together as a partnership where you care for and support each other through everything and share in the magic of life is the way of love.